Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia – My Opening Post

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So here I am, doing my first Blog Hop on May 17th, the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia. I decided to finally be brave and do one because of the  cause that’s so dear to my heart.

Why? Because not only am I part of the community (which ever combination of letters you prefer to use), but I know people who are struggling with their identity, other people’s reactions to them, and the general obstacles we, the non-binary, not straight people face pretty much daily in one way or another.

Despite living in a country where things are relatively good, Finland doesn’t have same sex marriage or adoption rights yet. We’re working on it, and the general climate for this sort of thing seems to be getting better every day. And until that, there’s always same sex civil partnership here, so that’s a plus for sure.

I’ve encountered homophobia and I continue facing it almost daily from someone in my immediate family. The little remarks about “fags” get to me more than I’d like to admit, let alone the transphobic comments that are, luckily, less frequent, mostly because transpeople aren’t on their radar…. Would I come out to them as a genderqueer pansexual? I’m 32 this month and… no. I think I’ll leave that private for now, because back in my teens when I started to identify as a lesbian I took enough of their phobic comments and learned my lesson.

Sometimes, for me personally, it’s not about the fight, it’s about making sure my little sister who is now 15 knows the difference between what this person in our family says and what’s right. So far I’m doing okay, because I can see the variety of friends my sister has, and it’s certainly not straight or narrow! :)

I also decided to do this Hop for promotion, of course. Because what’s more fun than to do a giveaway? Mhmm… thought you’d agree with me on that. :)

I’ll get to what you can win and how in a little bit. First, here’s the link to the Hop’s official page. You should go visit and check out the other blogs that are doing the hop. It’s a great way to support the cause, find new authors, and naturally win some prizes!

Okay, fine, let’s get to it!

What you can win:

  • any one (1) of my already published novels in paperback form
  • a quaranteed paperback of my next novel release “Tainted” that will be out in Aug/Sept at some point.
  • any one (1) eBook from my back catalogue

How can you win?

Well that’s easy! Comment on this post and answer this question:  When was the last time you encountered homophobia or transphobia in your life? There’s no need to explain the situation, I’m just curious about when it was. If you’re a straight ally, tell me anyway, because we all face these situations, no matter who and what we are.

I’ll pick THREE WINNERS no later than May 28th, and I’ll let you guys choose what prize you want, one by one. Also, remember to leave your email address for me to be able to contact you, otherwise you automatically disqualify!

There’s a bonus, too! You can now use the code CB46C during the blog hop to get my short story Rainbows and Trout for free on Smashwords!



  1. KimberlyFDR says:

    My extended family is very homophobic, which makes family holidays difficult :( Even my parents, who are normally accepting of my writing success, are very ugly against the LGBT writing I do. It’s very hard to deal with.


  2. Kevin Klehr says:

    Wow, can’t believe I didn’t know about this campaign.

  3. End of April this year, in the break room during lunch–one of the last weeks before I quit–my coworkers entered into a very… colorful conversation about the trans* and gay customers who stop in every night on their way to or from the bars/clubs.

    It wasn’t a pleasant conversation–and not one I feel particularly comfortable sharing explicit details about. I eventually put my headphones on and cranked my music up loud enough to tune them out because I couldn’t take it anymore.

    I’m really glad to be gone from that place.


  4. Trix says:

    Probably a month or so ago, when somebody seemed disconcerted at seeing a trans* person at a function we both attended, since she hadn’t before.


  5. Issa says:

    I really haven’t faced it though I had to endure a lecture from someone who said marriage was only between a man and a woman…and this person cheated on his wife for 15 years. Can’t even begin to respect the argument in that circumstance.

    cojazzchick AT yahoo DOT com

  6. Meike says:

    Most people around me are rather accepting, but there are enough people with misconceptions and this awefull kind of tolerance where they say: Well, you can do what you want, but I don’t want to know about it. But they are all about telling about themself.
    Please count me in. Dorome at gmx dot de

  7. Marie says:

    Thank you for your great post and the short story. There are a lot of uninformed or ignorant attitudes out there, and it can be difficult to figure out the best way to handle each situation when it’s encountered. Thanks for participating in the blog hop!

  8. Cindy says:

    Sad to say – it was a day or so ago, while watching the telly. I am an ally, yet I am the only one in house.

  9. Cornelia says:

    This really hurts part of the message in church on Sunday.I am an ally can not respect religion that has so much hate for others.

  10. Urbanista says:

    I encounter mild baffled homophobia whenever anyone discovers I love MM stories! I encountered vicious transphobia when a lesbian couple with one transgender partner would come into my workplace. This couple had encountered a lifetime of prejudice,, and were an angry pair. The treatment they received made me understand their anger.
    brendurbanist @gmail. com

  11. Beth says:

    That was a very nice post. Thank you for sharing and participating in the hop!

    i think that the last time I encountered homophobia was about a week ago. There was a effeminate looking man at work and some homophobic comments were made. I am straight, so it was not aimed at me, but it was still wrong.

  12. H.B. says:

    I think the last time I encountered homophobia or transphobia I was in High School. I went to a same-sex public high school so yeah…there were rumors and not pleasant ones either. Thank you for taking part in the hop and sharing your story.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

  13. Nancy S says:

    The last time was a couple of weeks ago and it was my idiot son-in-law commenting on a news story. So hope the idiocy was not passed along with his dna to my grandsons. Thanks for hopping.

  14. Erica Pike says:

    I live in Iceland, so this isn’t usually a problem here. However, last summer there was an event in my hometown and there were entertainers present. One of them told a “gay joke” and people laughed. The guys telling the joke and the people laughing probably don’t have anything against homosexuals, but they clearly don’t understand that this can be hurtful to homosexuals and their families. The entertainer might as well had told a joke about “black people” – which isn’t socially acceptable here, but they don’t seem to understand that “gay jokes” are the exact same thing.

  15. Juliana says:

    Just today, my parents were watching Entertainment Tonight. There was a feature on Behind the Candelabra & I heard my mom say ‘They’re all just pedophiles’… :(
    Thanks so much for sharing your post in this blog hop. Such an important subject.
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

  16. Shirley Ann Speakman says:

    I’m from the UK and the government are trying to get the marriage bill through Parliament I hope they do.


  17. Carolyn says:

    Just want to wrap you in a big hug, Tia. I have no idea what it feels like to have to hear family talk negatively about you while not being able to really say anything back. I’m so glad your little sister has you for a sibling. No matter what her identity or orientation, she will know she doesn’t have to believe those things her family says.

    I think the last time I was in a situation where I came up against homophobia was talking to a couple of moms and one of them was very religious, and she said the bible says homosexuality was wrong. While the other mom and I disagreed with her, it shocked me because I kind of live in a very accepting bubble where everyone is very open-minded.

    Thank you for being part of the hop and sharing your story and words with all of us.

    caroaz [at] ymail [dot] com

  18. Emily W. says:

    I’m an asexual ally, and I faced homophobia in my classroom just a few months ago.


  19. Sherry S. says:

    Most of them time my family is very anti-gay rights. Thank you for taking part in the hop!
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  20. Penumbra says:

    I’m straight, but I’ve heard comments from family members that indicate homophobia. I’ve discussed with a sibling if we find out that any of our younger relatives are gay, to let them know we support them if their parents do not.

    Thanks for participating in this great hop!


  21. Peggy says:

    Thank you for the post.

    peggy1984 at live dot com

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